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Post Number:#11  PostPosted: 18 Aug 2010 20:51 
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I found the trick was to go out walking lots and I listened for Russian speakers and walked right up to them is I heard the accent .. Now she can meet up with 'the girls'...


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We have a ready supply of Slovaks and Poles on hand so Mrs Vinny might have to adapt … they’re almost the same anyway. :D


OH Ho, you have a LOT to learn if you still think THAT ! ;) .. She'd put you 'straight' ... [bat.gif]


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What can I say, the first year in my experience is hell. Adapting to Canada wasn't really all that hard, other than the language. My wife arrived knowing only "okay." The best thing she did: get a job. Sure, it stresses her out, but she had no choice but to learn how to talk, and she has to talk all day long. She now can understand just about any conversation.

P.S. My wife has now reached the stage where she does not even feel much of a need to meet other Russians. We were on a beach while on vacation earlier this month, and there were a few Russian families. She could not be bothered to even talk to one of them [aferim.gif]


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Misha

Fair play to your good wife to learn the hard way..

We came back to the UK and the banks were about to crash and the only jobs available were ones that involved cleaning rather than interacting - whilst Veta was happy to do those jobs - to get out of the house - *I* persuaded her to go to college to learn English, get certified and move onto Computing

I hardly think it was right to expect her to leave a job with managerial responsibilities and sales targets and a reasonable salary and security and then expect her to clean..

Many of the Russian speaking women we know had jobs when we arrived and now have two or three part-time ones as they can't GET a full-time one..

I read about Canada and Oz and she must wonder if she moved to the wrong country ! :oops:


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That is pretty impressive, kudos!


I agree! I always thought it was humanly impossible for anyone to learn Dutch as a 2nd language. [reading book smiley which RWF doesn't have]

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OH Ho, you have a LOT to learn if you still think THAT ! ;) .. She'd put you 'straight' ... [bat.gif]


Wot? We can't treat Johnny Foreigner 'as all the same'? [read.gif]

Say it ain't so Moby, say it ain't so. [confused.gif]



Edit: Book pic added, as Vinn coudn't find it! [wink.gif]

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Misha
Fair play to your good wife to learn the hard way..


My wife did get a part-time job. It worked out well as she would study English in the morning and work in the afternoon. Of course, she often complains about her job and naturally I tell her she can always quit [wink.gif] However, she likes having a regular salary which she saves [happy.gif]


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[reading book smiley which RWF doesn't have]

Vinny,
For the reading book smiley [read.gif] click on the Image View more smilies and a whole page of smilies appears one of them is the "Reading book"

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stubben wrote:
That is pretty impressive, kudos!


I agree! I always thought it was humanly impossible for anyone to learn Dutch as a 2nd language. [reading book smiley which RWF doesn't have]


It is one of the most difficult languages to learn if you didn't learn it as a native. (too many exceptions).

But it is possible! [good_news.gif]

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On my personal travel report: My Russian Love affair" I have detailed extensively and posted a lot of photos regarding my relationship with my wife and also our life together in the UK.

In June 2010, we celebrated our 2 years marriage anniversary by visiting Russia and I can say that our path to married life was not strewn with roses. We had to face many problems and so far we have managed to overcome most of our difficulties but life continues and who knows what may happen tomorrow.

Before marrying Hanna in Russia, I had read and posted here a very nice article about the "Cultural Schock" (click the link) and I was made aware of the long trip and the problems we have to face together!

The first year I was busy chasing all the legalities, Resident Card, Doctors, Dentists, banks and any other necessary thing to smooth our life. Hanna went to an English class to improve her English but after Christmas she decided to follow an Oxford course on line and for hours every day she was reading and practising. At the same time she was learning touch typing and got good at it. During the same time we had to take care of our garden and revive it... and yes she done an excellent job, I was only watering and driving her around! [biggrin.gif]

Meanwhile we managed to visit a few places here in the UK and then, when sge got her Resident card travelled abroad to Nice.

Last October we were planning to go to Greece for a holiday but our plans were scuppered as Hanna was offered a job locally and it was an opportunity we could not miss, so the trip to Kos was cancelled.

From the beginning of the year we managed a few trips abroad, Athens in Greece, Marseilles and Gerardmer in France, also visited 3-4 interesting places and towns in the South of the UK and last June we went to Russia for 14 days. On our return my grandchildren were here from San Francisco so we spent sometime with them.

In October we are planning to go back to Kos in Greece for some sunshine but meanwhile life goes on over here in the UK.

Pretty soon it will be time for Hanna to take driving lessons as she needs to be interdependent and feel more comfortable instead of relying on me for her transport.

Not much else of importance to mention and we try to resolve any problems appearing the best we can. I keep myself busy in the garden and with my computer.

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Time passes and the holiday in Kos last October and also the Christmas and New Year holidays and celebration go to the memory lane fast but I have to say those memories still linger in her thoughts remembering her youth and how they used to celebrate.

It occur to me and I like to ask, in your experience, how long time the cultural shock remains and when it does start fading and the person going through is settling to her new home and feels that her home is here now, in the new country and Russia is becoming a thing of the past?

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